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Marriage is not Destiny

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When it comes to destiny, marriage isn’t an end in itself. It can never and should never be. Alternatively, it can be considered as a means to an end.

In Genesis 2, “the Lord God planted a garden” and there He put the first man – Adam. His purpose was to “work it and keep it.” [v. 8, 15]

God created Adam for a purpose. So it is today; everyone of us is born for a purpose; a great one. No matter the circumstances surrounding your birth; God had something big planned for you.

And the Lord said that ‘it was not good and  satisfactory that the man should be alone; I will make a helper (partner) fit (suitable) for him.’ [v. 18]

Unlike Adam who was formed out of the dust directly, Eve was formed from his (Adam’s) rib. The circumstance surrounding their birth or creation was different, but each of them had a purpose. Adam was to be a gardener and eve, his partner.

Get this. The circumstance surrounding your birth isn’t a yardstick to determine if you have a purpose or not. God created everyone with a purpose; something to live for. Something great. Although Adam and eve where married, they had a destiny to fulfill; which from now I will refer to as purpose. Marriage is a place where the success of purpose can be facilitated or hindered.

Why am I writing this?

With gnawing pain I have seen and heard young adults (I’m a young adult too) discuss how they want to marry Mr. or Mrs. A who has B, C, D and E. However, rarely will you hear them talk about what the intend to spend the rest of their life doing, after marriage.

For instance, last year I was opportune to ask a girl of 20 years who’d just finished secondary (high) school this question;

In the next 10 years, what do you want your life to look like?

Reluctantly, she smiled and replied; “I don’t know o.”

I couldn’t believe her. “you must be  joking” I screamed, but the look on her face convinced me that she was serious. I tried talking to her, but it was already too late (according to her). The introductory rite for her marriage was to be held the following day.

There seem always to be pangs of guilt in my memory, attributed to the vague supposition I had of her when we first talked. About six months earlier we had met and we did spake on pressing issues concerning her education, and she agreed to my suggestions. She did implemented the first step (which was to write college entrance examination – JAMB), I made sure she did; but she never purchased admission form from any higher institution (college) afterwards. During this first discourse, I never asked the question of purpose; “what are you living for?” What a mistake!

On the day of our final discussion, she told me of how the young man (the love of her life) who she was to marry said that:

“My family said, you can not go and study in a distant place. Because it’s far from home, you will ‘open eye’ (be exposed) and maybe reject me.”

“Did he say that?” I cried in unbelief. “Then why are you still marrying him? He’s not even the person sponsoring you. Oh! Your mother agreed to this, because you never protested. Did you?”

As we stood, piles of question kept heaping on my mind until it felt like a volcanic mountain; soon to erupts. Unsuspectingly, this young girl has taken the words of the young man as gospel (It is my opinion that, like the girl, the young man either lacks purpose or he’s just another selfish and insecure person who took advantage of the girl’s apt simplicity in the name of love).

This girl’s story is one out of many others that could be told. There’s this girl who left secondary school years back to marry and last year I saw her in the village of a neighboring state trading Okra; she now looks older than her mum.

Marriage is not the remedy for absolute lack of purpose. Neither is it a substitute for purpose. Destiny itself stands on the foundation of purpose. The man who find and fulfills his purpose has succeeded in the profession of destiny; however it [destiny] has no place for men who suffer a bankruptcy of purpose.
It is good to get married. And if you do; know that you’ve not fully fulfilled God’s plan for your life, until you fulfill purpose. Remember Adam and eve, they where married, still there was a purpose to fulfill; they were to work and keep the garden.

Marriage is a major factor in the pursuit of God’s given purpose. It can, in a blink, spell your doom or necessitate your ovation. This ‘doom’ or ‘ovation’ is the destiny that we so much pursue. The end of everything is destiny. Your destiny is in your hands in disguise. A man who has found his purpose before marriage stands at a greater advantage over him who assumes that getting married is all in life.

For example, the biblical Joseph had dreamt twice that he’ll be a leader and he had his mind fixed on this purpose which God gave him. He was so determined that the journey into the pit, from the pit to Portipher’s house, and from thence to the prison couldn’t get him to compromise. In fact, his leadership mindset was in action all through. He was next to his masters; both in Portipher’s and the prison. Seeing that his master’s wife was interested in him, he could have conspired with her to eliminate his master and have him become the head of the house, but he didn’t. He knew who he was and what he wanted. He wasn’t confused. And later when he became the prime minister of Egypt, he got married and had wonderful kids. (Gen. 37,39,41,48)

Jacob, another character in the Bible, however wasted 14 years in labor, as the cost for marrying two women and another six years ‘tending flocks’. Wow! 20 years! This guy was something else. Note that he was a cheat; bought his brothers birthright, stole his blessings, and influenced the birth process of his master’s flocks. This attitude of his nearly cost him an encounter with God; he could have lost his purpose – the custodian of the Abrahamic blessing; for he wrestled with a man whom he later described as “God.” – (Gen. 29, 30, 32)

It was after the man had “struck  the socket of his hip, so the socket of Jacob’s hip was dislocated” that he began to cry “I will not let you go, unless you bless me.” (Gen. 32 v. 25,26)

Although Jacob was still able to understand his purpose after wasting 20 years in pursuit of marriage, his life afterwards wasn’t blossom.

Genesis 47
Years later, before pharaoh he replied regrettably that “All
the years of my life have been few and painful,” when asked “how long have you lived?” (v. 8, 9)

This indeed is an expression of regret; he didn’t find purpose early. No! He wasn’t even in the pursuit of purpose. Hmmmmmmm! Regret, that sour taste of an unfulfilled destiny.

Out there today, there are people who will not be as lucky as Jacob. Please don’t risk it. Now that you are not married yet, seek what you want to spend the rest of your life doing. Choose the Joseph path; you mustn’t be accomplished as he was before you get married. However, you can have a clarity of purpose before you do. Define your life and deal with it’s plague now that you’re single. In marriage, there will be someone else’s sheet to deal with. Can you handle that?

I’ve heard some folks say “it’ll be all over when I get married” with all confidence. “All this sadness,poverty and insults will end.” They even threaten their family members “John Doe promised to come for ‘date fixing’ soon; I won’t be here for long. I’ll be going to my husband’s house soon.”

Marriage, a remedy for your self inflected sadness and poverty? The result, most often, has always been the opposite. The situation only gets worst. It’ll be like jumping into the rail track in attempt to avoid a pending and foreseeable car crash. Either way, doom awaits.

There’s nothing as terrible as marrying someone who has no purpose. Such persons lack virtue; they can settle for vice if need be. They are like dry leaves; tossed by the wind where so ever it pleases. They embrace every idea, hoping it could be a way out; even marriage. If it does not work out, they will walk out.

“Death is not the greatest tragedy in life, but a life without propose.” – Myles Monroe

I leave you with these words.

There’s only one friend worth marrying. Such friend seeks to know your purpose for living; reminds you of your purpose for living; contributes to your purpose for living and will never give up on your purpose for living.
Seek to be such a friend.

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Become a Better You By Joel Osteen: book review

The book “Become a Better You” by Joel Osteen, in my opinion, is a modern classic and also a regimen for effectual and productive and happy everyday life. In it, Joel inspires and motivates you to live above strongly held negative opinions and realities responsible for your present state of life.

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Clearly, the writer points out your flaws. However, he also provides a practicable step by step guide to solving or overcoming them, through inspiring real life experiences, aided by scriptural quotes; thereby qualifying this book to be a brilliant guide to improving your everyday life.

I’d rather avoid describing “Become a Better You” as an ‘easy read’. Its simplicity in words and resourcefulness sums up to a cumbersome book, which will take time to finish. If you are in search for a book to finish within one week, stay away from “Become a Better You”.

Although it took me months to finish this great book; if you want a book that will help you grow spiritually and in character, I would highly recommend this rewarding book.

PREPARE FOR ABUNDANCE

Are you expecting a miracle? Are you in need of healing or material provision? Have you been expecting a breakthrough? Maybe a job, car or even money?
My charge to you this morning is to prepare for abundance.

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Most often we limit God by our way of preparation. We say “since the car is not coming, let me settle for a motorcycle”.
“Oh God”. You’d say, “I’m not asking for much. I only need $5.”
You’ve to stop thinking like the world. Think and expect like a Child of God.

Our earthly fathers give according to their ability. A poor man’s son would expect little from his Dad, while the rich man’s soon believes he can get whatever he desires.
You’re better than the rich man’s son. Your father has this to say “I am the God of all flesh. Is there anything too hard for me?” The answer is NO!.

DEBT PAID
Remember the story of the poor widow? Her husband died and left her with a huge debt, then the creditors came to take her sons. This widow ran to the prophet for help. “what do you have?” The prophet asked. “nothing but a pot of oil” replied the woman tearfully.

Elisha said, “Go around and ask all your neighbors for empty jars. Don’t ask for just a few” 2kings 4:3

In other words, Elisha was saying “woman, don’t try to limit God’s hands, go and prepare for abundance. Don’t borrow few. None of your neighbors must be left with an empty jar. Borrow all.”

Keep in mind that the borrowing time for this widow was her preparation time. The hand of God waits till you are prepared before he send the blessings.

What are you doing with your preparation time? Are you borrowing more empty jars or you’ve quit borrowing? Soon, preparation time will be over.

Then God will say: “go in and shut the door behind yourself” (2kings 4:5). You ask why? Because its time for blessings to rain.
You can’t be preparing and receiving at the same time. It doesn’t work that way. It is either one or the other.

“When the vessels were all full, she said to her son, Bring me another vessel. And he said to her, There is not a one left. Then the oil stopped multiplying” (2kings 4:6).

The oil stopped multiplying when there was no empty jar left. God told Abraham count the stars. Abraham lost count. The blessings where to much. When it comes to God always dream big.

In Malachi he promised to open the “windows of heaven”. One version says “the floodgates of heaven”. Glory.

Expect a flood of blessings. Don’t settle for rain or showers. If you’re expecting a flood, what would you do? Keep the place tidy. Create space for abundance.

THE NET WAS NOT TORN
Don’t say “I don’t deserve this. No. It is too much for me.” Keep that spirit out and saY, “I deserve the best. I’m God’s child. I am seated with Christ in heavenly places and blessed with all spiritual blessings.” Glory.

Some folks are scared of asking for more, thinking abundance may suffocate them. The scripture has this to say:

“So Simon Peter went aboard and hauled the net ashore, full of large fish, 153 of them. And although there were so many, the net was not torn.” John21:11

Jesus worked a miracle for the disciples after a night of fruitless efforts. There was abundance.

Did peter say ” oh no. The fishes are too much. Jesus, let me throw some back into the river?” No. He didn’t. Instead he summoned strength and “dragged the net ashore.”

Sometimes that’s all you need. Stop feeling inferior. Summon courage and strength, jump into that flood of blessing and drag it ashore. Drag the blessing into your family, business and education. Everywhere.

Remember: your preparation can limit God’s hands. He’s got flood ready for you. Prepare for abundance. Your lack is over.
Prepare by believing, praying and expecting.

All glory belongs to Jesus

SOWING SPIRIT

Each New Year gives you the opportunity to sow a seed where you failed to do so or did very little the previous year. It’s a chance to plant seeds of love, happiness, patience, kindness, forgiveness, friendship, hope and love. Sowing or investing is the second point we’ll be discussing today in continuance of the power of a new year.

There are many areas you can sow, but I’ll show you only three because they are the most important. These three have the capacity to give you a new turn;

PRAYER:

Prayer means to have a relationship with God. Nothing comes cheap from heaven except through prayer. In her book ‘The power of simple prayer’ Joyce Meyer said that “prayer opens the door for God to work. As we partner with God in the spiritual realm through prayer, we bring things out of that realm into our lives, into the world, into our society, and into the lives of other people.” The more time you spend with God leads to an improved change in your life and that of the people you care about.

This New Year; pray like never before. “Never stop praying” (1 THES. 5:17 NLT). You must invest heavily in prayer because it is the channel – besides studying the word – you can know what God is saying about your personal everyday life, family, friends, and business. Prayer should become a way of living conceived out of the abundance of love for God. Keep this in mind always, there’s a thirst and hunger in your soul – a vacuum – and only a relationship with God can fill it.

PEOPLE:

Until you learn how to invest in people, your relevance will remain negligible. At any given opportunity try to see and bring the best in people. Your friends should see the need of being around you; because they feel better when they are with you. Be a source of hope, love and encouragement to others. You’ll be doing yourself a big favor; people with bad emotions will not be found much around you because you left them better than you met them.
I have come to understand that the key to giving people a better life is to firstly love them; subsequently they will open up to your knowledge. John C. Maxwell puts it this way, “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.”
Investing in persons you may or may not know defines Service of Love. It’s required of us all. Build relationships that will make people look up to you, push you up, pull you up and help you stand.

 SELF:

God has blessed every human being with a gift (Eph. 1:3). There’s energy inside you; a force that can turn your life around forever. This force is a dynamic one, working in you till you become effectual and productive.
You can direct this force into your talent, skill, profession and business. You can make your passion work out. This best gift you can invest here is time. Keep on training. Prepare like tomorrow will never come. “Neglect not your gift” (1 Tim. 4:14). You must work to fulfill God’s purpose for your life. Secret preparation develops you for public success. The more time you spend practicing, the greater your chances of success.

“A man’s gift makes room for him, and brings him before great men.” (Prov. 18:6 NIV)
“Do you see a person skilled in his work? He will take his position before kings; He will not take His position before obscure people.” (Prov. 22:29 NET).

 

Today you learned that this new year you can invest in Prayer, People and Self.

to be continued

EVERYTHING NEW

A new year is an opportunity to make all things new or better. This section of THE POWER OF A NEW YEAR is divided into two parts;

  1. Reset
  2. Refresh

RESET

This means to return something back to its original state or position.

You may have given up on yourself and said: “I can’t quit smoking. I’ve missed it.” You could have said: “I can’t be a good son. I’m so cracked.” The good news is that you can be and do better. All you need is to give your maker a chance to press the RESET button and you will return to the way He made you.

“The spirit of God has made me, and the breath of the almighty gives me life.” Job 33:4 NKJV

Regardless of your mess, if you permit Him to press the RESET button your situation will change.

This is how you let God press the RESET button:

“This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; the new life has began.” 2 COR. 5:17 NLT

So, if you want to get it right. If you desire to live according to God’s pattern, all you need to do is accept Christ; come to him the way you are. By accepting Christ genuinely your old life and experiences will disappear before the new glory that God has designed for you.

You need not to worry about anything people have said or written concerning you, because;

“He cancelled the record of the charges against us and took it away by nailing it to the cross.” Col. 2:14 NLT

In this new year you can start afresh, stronger, better and on a clean slate. All you need to do is allow your maker press the RESET button and you behold wonders. There’s nothing better than living the way God designed you to live.

 REFRESH

This means to give new strength or energy to something.

God has designed our lives so beautiful, such that we can refresh ourselves when we are weary or tired. Even if you are not tired, He wants you to start the next chapter of your life better.

In this new year, He wants you to be a better father, son, mother, or friend. It is your maker’s plan for you to experience extraordinary love. He has plans for your business to boost. All you need to do is leave everything to Him and follow His direction, Because;

“But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.” Is. 40:31 KJV

While waiting on God you are exposed to a divine knowledge that will turn your life around. All you sincerely need is fruitful knowledge. “That the the soul be without knowledge, it is not good.” Prov. 19:2 KJV

Since you are a new man or a difference specie of mankind that lives according to God’s pattern, you need continual renewal or transformation into the image and likeness of God, so that you can remain effectual and productive in all your endeavors: this is done through the studying of the word (the bible) and communion with the Father and Son, through the Holy Spirit. [2Cor. 3:18, Colo. 3:10.]

To refresh means to implant and saturate your mind and being with the knowledge of God’s word. Study the word, speak it and live it. you are getting better everyday.

You have to options, either to RESET or REFRESH. Choose the one that fits your situation the most and you will never regret it.

To be continued…..

THE POWER OF A NEW YEAR

“You saw me before I was born.

Everyday of my life was recorded in your book.

Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed.” Psalms 139:16 NLT

Some persons spend the 31st of every December making resolutions, while others visit churches to pray their way into a new year because everyone wants to be better than they were that year.

While some persons embrace the reality of a new year, others are stuck in the misfortune that befell them the past year. In this post I’ll be showing you the opportunities a new year presents and how to take advantage of them, but firstly let’s take a look at the bible verse above:

FIRST LINE: “You saw me before I was born.” God saw you before you came into earth. He is aware that you’re here. He is not ignorant of your existence. You are not a mistake.

SECOND LINE: “Everyday of my life was recorded in your book.” God has designed how you should live your life. He designed that you should be successful, brave, healthy, lovable and happy. So by implication, the live you are living is actually God’s past. This is wonderful. You a character in a heavenly book and God has designed you to be the good guy.

THIRD LINE: “Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed.” A moment is a very short spaces of time. The time between when you entered the supermarket and when you come out is a market. God is interested in everything you do each moment. I love this! If for instance, there are twenty moments of your life in an hour, God is interested in all of them.

Each year is a chapter in God’s book. You can choose to live according to His divine and beautiful arrangement or according to how the WORLD wants it. I advice you to follow the first.

The powers of a new year that I will be showing you are;

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BECAUSE OF CHRISTMAS

Because of Christmas

Faith overcame fear

Healing swallowed sickness

For ashes, beauty was given


Because of Christmas

A virgin became a mother

The barren are declared fruitful

Laughter took the place of sorrow


Because of Christmas

 The blind, now see

The poor are made rich

The lost, are found


Because of Christmas

The dead are made alive

The weak are made strong

And the broken heart, found love

A QUESTION YOU MUST ASK YOURSELf

If you don’t know where you are going,
How will you get there?
If you don’t know that you are poor,
How can you become rich?
If the oppressed are happy,
What will the freedom fighter do?

If you have had no vision,
What then has been your mission?
If the bee can’t make honey,
Of what value is it?
If you think there’s no future,
Why are you still living?

Who comes in first?

The devil will always remain good at initiating and implementing futile plans. God has always been good in being a step ahead.

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With time I’ve come to understand that the things people see as impossible will not apply to you, if you fail to admit the responsibility of solving it. Just leave it to God, his specialty is in the impossible.

The devil has made it a habit to interrupt my journey through success: disguising possible dreams as impossible: killing the trees the cover me (so I thought): knocking me down, in the face of my breakthrough. The devil is so good at encouraging people to fail. Are you encouraging him too?

God the master planner. I don’t know how he does it, but he is sure good at putting smiles on torn faces: giving strength to broken hopes: giving live to dead dreams: remembering those that have forsaken him and standing strong with the faithful.

When God is in charge, the devil always arrives late.
I got my admission last three weeks without stress. Good news.
I lost my job this morning. Bad news? No.
I’m resuming school on the 13th of this month and I know God will provide all I need.

As usual, the devil arrived late.

When God comes first in everything you do, the devil will always arrive late.

Who arrives late in your life?